This may seem like a unique topic to discuss but it is surprising how important it is to talk about. Society still to this day makes it appear that being single is some sort of bad thing, when it really isn’t. Being single allows you to live the life you want. It allows you to create and live your own adventures, knowing that you can do it on your own.
Sunday, 19 November 2017
Sunday, 12 November 2017
Originally this was supposed to be an outfit of the day post, but I thought I'd add a few extra photos of my trip to London. Me and my course mates went to London to explore. We ended up adventuring around the V&A before exploring Harrods. Overall it was a very lovely day - despite it being Halloween the decorations made us feel very festive for Christmas.
Leather Jacket - Primark
Top - Primark (found in a charity shop)
Jeans - Primark
Trainers - B&M
Rucksack - The North Face
Bat Earrings - ASDA
Glasses - Specsavers
(Special thanks to Sophie and Carys for the photos of me)
(Special thanks to Sophie and Carys for the photos of me)
Sunday, 29 October 2017
As I sit writing this post with my cup of tea, I am currently wearing this mask. I honestly could rave about this mask for days. This is now an essential to any pamper night I have. I was looking for a decent face mask for a while and decided to pop into The Body Shop with my friend Abbey.
As a student I have always looked at The Body Shop, as a place that sells products I'd love to purchase but could never afford. Until, I went into one of their stores and had a great chat with a worker called Nathan. Nathan sat me and my friend down and talked through everything skincare related and recommended this one. He mentioned that it was a popular one for a whole range of skin types.
Although some of you may be thinking that this is quite a pricey product at a price of £17. However, when I apply this face mask it with a foundation brush, this helps you to prevent using any more product than you actually need. So far I have used this products around 7 times and as you can see in the picture below, it has barely touched the amount of product. The way I like to think of it is that you can either purchase singular packs for a price of roughly a pound each, or buy this tub and let it last you far longer than singular packets would. Meaning in the long term you save money!
Just the smell of this product is enough to relax you. Its aromas leave you feeling fresh before the mask is even applied. When taking the mask off, it doubles as a scrub, which instantly make your skin feel softer and more radiant. This is the only mask that I know of, where its affects can last longer than a day after. So if you are in need of a good quality face mask with lasting effects, definitely give this one a try!
Sunday, 22 October 2017
Firstly, I want to apologise for not posting last Sunday. Since starting second year my work load has increased and due to personal reasons life got a bit chaotic last weekend and before knowing it, it was Monday.
Moving on to this weeks post, recently I have gained a handful of new followers and readers (which I'd like to wish you all a warm welcome)! I thought what better time to do a somewhat Q & A than now. I have decided to take some questions from Vogues 73 questions, as they always seem to be intriguing, so I hope you enjoy!
What's the best thing that's happened to you this month?
The best thing that has happened to me this month is taking a break to go home and spend quality time with family. A great opportunity that has happened to me this year, is being able to send of a piece of work to get shown in a gallery in Detroit.
What's the best thing that has happened to you this year?
That's a hard thing to pick just one, so many great things have happened this year so far. I have had a couple of great trips away, but I'd probably say passing my test is the best thing to have come out of this year. As I didn't pass straight away, there were times where I felt like giving up but managed to stay motivated and I passed.
What's the best thing ever?
My family and close friends.
What's your favourite season?
I love all the seasons but you can never go wrong with Autumn.
What's your favourite holiday?
Christmas because it's the one time of the year that I am most likely guaranteed to see all of my family.
Would you ever live in a big city?
Yes, but I'd much prefer to live in the countryside.
It's brunch, what do you eat?
Fried breakfast - you can't go wrong!
What's your favourite colour?
Mainly brown but I also like burgundy, blue and yellow.
What colour dress did you wear to prom?
Blow dry or air dry?
Air dry, unless I'm in a rush to somewhere special.
Who's the last person you texted?
Without having to look, my Dad.
Twitter or instagram?
Instagram without a doubt. However I'm beginning to use my Twitter a bit more.
Who should everyone follow right now?
The Michalaks without a doubt. I'm obsessed with them right now, every vlog is beautifully made.
Have you ever had anything stolen from you?
Yes when I was little someone broke into my back garden and stole mine and my sisters scooters.
Favourite country you've visited?
Spain, Barcelona in particular.
Country you wish to visit?
There's too many... the list goes on and on.
What are you doing tomorrow?
Going to a morning lecture, horse riding and probably a touch of studying.
What are you most excited about in life right now?
I know it's a bit broad but the future - there's so many exciting things to come in my life.
What are you completely bored of right now?
People letting me down.
What's your favourite cocktail?
What's one thing you still have from your childhood?
My blue teddy bear.
What's your favourite current TV show?
Probably Made in Chelsea.
What's a movie that made you cry?
Titanic - every time!
What makes you laugh a lot?
What's the most adventurous thing you've done?
I'm honestly not too sure. I've got up to a few adventurous things over the past.
What did you want to do with your life at age 5?
I'm not too sure, probably write a book.
What's the most important thing that someone can learn?
Mountain hideaway or beach house?
This is very tricky, at the moment mountain hideaway.
What's your favourite scented candle?
If you could spend 3 months away where would it be?
That's tricky. I couldn't say. My friend went to Australia for 3 months, personally I'd love to visit a few places across 3 months. Possibly stop off at a few places on the way to Australia or something similar to that.
What's the first thing you do every morning?
Turn off my alarm.
What do you have for breakfast?
Fruit loaf toast or oats with honey. But only when I remember or have an early start.
Tuesday, 10 October 2017
As today is Mental Health Day and I volunteer with The Mentality Project I have decided to create a bonus post as a somewhat collaboration of my volunteering whilst I'm studying away. Last year I created a similar post that you all seemed to love called Mental Health, which has encouraged me to create another post. Especially when the nights are getting darker, we can always feel in need of a good pick me up and to focus on ourselves that little bit more. Therefore, I feel like there is no better time than now to create a post to hopefully make you think about yourself a little bit more. So, grab a cuppa, snuggle up and take some time out for yourself.
Personally for me this past year has been tough, moving to a new city and meeting new people has seen its ups and downs. However I have powered through the toughest of days and came out far more positive as I now appreciate the little things in life that little bit more. I am far more grateful for having a good day than I was before. I have also learnt many things about myself and what specific things I need to do to avoid being affected or to be able to maintain a positive and realistic outlook on life.
Life is tough for everyone no matter who we are and what life we live. It is important to make sure we are fully aware of our mental health and in some way are connected to the way we feel. It is easy to get lost in a life of deadlines and stress, forgetting that we need to take time out for ourselves. We are a living being and therefore are allowed to feel emotions, no matter who we are.
Until volunteering with Mentality I never quite realised what you could do and just how important your mental health is. The most important thing that I found is probably that your mental health is just as important as your physical health, if not more. When your mental health is not at its best, it can go on to make you physically ill further down the line. Therefore, the importance of taking time off when your mental health isn't at its best is rather essential. Take being a student, you are consistently bombarded with stress: deadlines, assignments, coursework and exams. These all can take a toll on your body, being able to fully concentrate whilst studying at home or in a class can be highly affected by where your mental health is. So, when you get a day off and you're not feeling one hundred per cent, keep it your day off. Don't plan to do any work, you deserve a break! Make the day a self-care day, all about you! If you feel like your mental health is in a very bad place then taking time off work and school is fully acceptable. You want to be able to be your best and by taking time to focus on yourself you're allowing yourself to recover, just like you would a physical illness. If you feel as if the day off didn't help, maybe go to your local doctors and discuss the situation with them. They should have access to a range of contacts who may be able to help you. If that doesn't work, they will be able to discuss other things that could help you further down the line. Focusing on yourself can be beneficial and give you that breathing space to allow you to get in tip top shape and to continue to do your best.
"I fall from the sky but I won't fall forever, I fall but when I rise I'll be stronger than ever"
- Rayleigh Ritchie -
Sunday, 8 October 2017
Sometimes life can be tough. We all have bad days and sometimes music can make the tough days that little bit easier. When we fall it can be the right song that lifts us right back up to feeling empowered and ready to face what lies ahead. These songs I hope will save a few of you from bad days. I hope you find one that when you need to be picked up from a bad day, you come home and play that three minute song. You cry, you let out that emotion and then you turn it off and say "you know what, I got this! I can do me!"
Travie McCoy - Keep On Keeping On ft. Brendon Urie
Jess Glyne - Don't Be So Hard On Yourself
Jessie J - Who You Are
Christina Aguilera - Fighter
Destiny's Child - Survivor ft. Da Brat
Oasis - Don't Look Back In Anger
The Script - Fall for Anything
Rayleigh Ritchie - Stronger Than Ever
The Script - Hall of Fame ft. will.i.am
What songs give you a pick me up? Do you find music can help with self care? Let me know what you think in the comments.
Sunday, 1 October 2017
As the academic year starts, it can always seem to be a somewhat tough time of the year. With earlier nights and deadlines approaching it can be tough to notice that it's more important than ever to treat yourself to a little bit of self care. It's often that we find ourselves pushing back our self care in order to complete deadlines or to focus on looking after others that we forget that the most important thing is to make sure you are well. Because with out looking after yourself, you're not going to be able to do your best at looking after others either.
So with that in mind, I've put together a few tips that you can use whenever you're feeling in need of a bit of a self care pick me up.
Phone a good friend or family member - In a world where technology is all around us we can sometimes forget the importance of hearing someones voice. So if you are feeling as if you have had a particularly hard day, phone a loved one and explain how you are feeling. By calling someone it may feel like you are getting something off your chest slightly more than just texting them.
Run yourself a nice hot bath / shower - Anyone who knows me, knows that I love myself a good pamper night. But I understand that we don't all always have time to pamper ourselves completely so treat yourself to a nice shower, use your favourite products and by the time you leave you'll feel far better for taking some time for yourself.
Grab a hot drink - Whether you are a tea drinker, coffee drinker or a fan of hot chocolate treating yourself to a hot drink when you feel overwhelmed is a great way to focus on yourself. Even if you are out and about, pop to a local coffee shop to pick up one to go. This is a great way to give yourself a well deserved break or a great excuse to get you away from a stressful environment.
Go for a walk or a run - Whether that's amongst nature or around the city, by getting your body moving it will realise endorphins which are designed to relieve stress and enhance pleasure which will immediately give you a pick me up.
Take breaks - It's okay to take breaks! No matter what we keep telling ourselves it is important to take breaks, whether that's half an hour or a couple of days. Take the amount of time off that you need, to focus on yourself. It doesn't matter how busy you are, your mental health is the most important thing by allowing yourself to take a break it will mean when you get back to whatever you were doing, you can give it your best.
Make sure you are drinking enough water - I am very guilty for this. It is so easy to forget to drink or to only drink when you are thirsty, however making sure you drink regularly and preferably water it will allow your body to stay hydrated and keep you energised for the day. If you don't like water, maybe try adding some fruits to add some more flavour.
Make your bedroom a you space - No matter how old you get, your bedroom should always be your safe space. It should be the space that allows you escape from all of lives problems. So make it feel more cosy by adding fairy lights or positive pictures to make it your space.
Treat yourself - That dress you've been looking at for weeks but haven't bought - buy it! That chocolate bar you've been craving - eat it! Life is too short to not enjoy the little things. Everything in moderation is not going to break the bank or kill the diet.
Get enough sleep - Last but certainly not least, make sure you are getting between 8 to 9 hours sleep a night or however many hours you need in order to feel awake. By not getting enough sleep you're not allowing your body to be well rested and can open yourself up to catching things like the common cold more easily. Take an hour before bed to calm down allowing yourself to hopefully fall to sleep faster.
What tips or advice have you got for self care? Do you practise self care regularly? Let me know in the comments so that we can all share our knowledge, as something that may work for one person may not always work for another.
Sunday, 24 September 2017
As we are now approaching the wonders of Autumn, I thought I'd do a bit of a throwback to when I had a beautiful day out with my good friend, Freya. Freya has been a good friend of mine for 13 years, we've had our ups and downs over the years but to be completely honest I think it's made our friendship stronger. On days like this, it reminds me of how grateful I am to have her in my life. I admire the fact that we can both be so honest to each other about the bad and the good, I feel like that is a great foundation to have in any friendship.
We went to a place called Warleigh Weir. As I didn't come as prepared as Freya to actually go in the water, I think it's safe to say that we made some interesting memories that day. I always find being amongst nature is always a great way to disconnect and feel more at home within yourself. I believe this is what made this day even more special. I've put some photos together to show a snippet of our day, I hope you enjoy.
Sunday, 17 September 2017
When I first heard about this concept of creating your own journal to help you keep track of your own life more, I must admit I didn’t see how it could work. I saw multiple photos of beautifully laid out pages but when I thought about the reality of it and the time it probably took to create them, I didn’t see it being very practical. However, with my mental health not being in the best of places, I decided to give it a go along with my flatmate as I had nothing to lose.
Three months on and I am in love with my bullet journal. Every night before going to bed I would take ten minutes out to sit down and somewhat reflect on my day. I enjoy the time that I spend creating new pages and in the long run it really helps to make me feel more positive and that I have my life in order a little bit more. Before starting bullet journal, I loved watching videos and looking up new Instagram accounts to see all the beautiful layouts and spreads that people have created. So, I thought I’d show you a couple of pages of mine without showing too much as some are a little personal.
Overall, I’d highly recommend creating one. It doesn’t have to be glamorous it could be very basic and simple, but it will help to show the importance of keeping track of the little things of life and give you a place to store some of your ideas and thoughts. What are your thoughts of bullet journals? Have you got a bullet journal? Let me know in the comments, I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Sunday, 10 September 2017
Everyone has experienced bad days in the past, it is just part of life. Without wanting to sound to negative it is most likely that you’ll experience one again in the future as life is made with ups and downs. Bad days help you value your good days even more, so in some ways they can be a blessing in disguise. You may have stumbled across this post because you are having a difficult day today or you’re reading this as you want to be prepared for future bad days. I’m going to list a few things that I do to make that day a little less bad.
Before I start with the steps to make your day a little better I want to start by saying a quote that I always reflect on when I’m having a difficult day. “IT’S A BAD DAY, NOT A BAD LIFE” I really appreciate this quote as I feel it helps to remind you that there are bad days but that doesn’t equal a bad life. There’s so much more to look forward to.
Without further a do, here are my steps to making that bad day a little less bad…
Read a book or watch a film – this will help to take your mind away from your problems allowing you escape to another world, even if for a short while.
Meditate – as cheesy as this is going to sound, focusing on breathing will help you realise that you are still alive and that’s something to be grateful for on its own.
Write down what you are grateful for – this will allow you to help change your mind set by slowly allowing it to become more positive rather than negative. Even in the worst situations there’s always something to be grateful for.
Pamper yourself – it’s so easy to get caught up within life and forget about looking after yourself. Take the evening or part of the day to do something you love, whether that’s having a bath with lush products or going for a drive.
Get an early night – sometimes the best remedy is to just sleep it off. If your difficult day is a result of an argument finish the argument (hopefully on good terms) and go to bed. Tomorrow you’ll wake up with a new outlook.
Talk to a friend or relative – talk to someone close about why you are having a bad day. Sometimes you just need to get it off your chest.
Hope this helped at least one of you and if you can think of any other ideas for someone who is having a bad day or something you do when you’re having a bad day please put them in the comments as I’d love to see some new ideas and it may even help someone else.
Sunday, 3 September 2017
Before coming to university I knew a few people who I could have banter with but they'd never go as far as to say hurtful things repeatedly. But after coming to university, I have met many people who would like to make fun of me for a joke. This sounds worst than it is but I think like anyone if someone or a group of people say something that's negative, it tends to stick more than if it was positive. I'm all for constructive criticism as I always love to be able to better myself but there can be a difference. However although I tend to put on a laughing face and joke it off, I have put together a few ways in order to deal with rude comments.
Listen to them - Okay... this may sound like I have just gone back on what I have previously said. But listen to the negative things they have said and acknowledge whether it has affected you enough that it sticks with you. Remember the good old saying "the truth hurts", sometimes that is true. However, if they don't mean it and are just saying it to take a joke. Reflect on what that shows you about themselves and then move on.
Don't be as bad as them - Obviously if it is funny banter, then say something back in a respectful manner. However you do not want to go personal when responding to what they say as in that case it just makes you appear as being as bad as them. Be respectful of people and appreciate their feelings, even if they did not respect yours.
Evaluate your friendship - If every time you see this person they are making fun of you and there's only that one time a while back in which you can remember they said something nice. Evaluate whether they are your friend. Friendships are supposed to bring you positivity not negativity.
Sunday, 27 August 2017
Recently I published a post about my uni room, which inspired me to talk about my first year of university in a bit more detail. I’m not going to lie, it wasn’t as glamorous as most people make it out to be. On top of the strange reality of moving away from home and being in a new city where I knew absolutely no one, I had to deal with some very difficult people. However, there were a lot of highs to make up for the lows. There were also a lot of firsts, such as my first flight.
You may think of university being late nights out clubbing and drinking with all the new friends that you’ve met. But if you want to do well at university and you’re there for the degree, there’s not as many nights out as you think. They come more as a treat than anything else. I spent a good few Friday nights leading up to deadlines in my flatmates room as we both sat there encouraging each other that we could do it as we type away at a computer screen for hours on end.
My first year at university gave me a chance to fly to Barcelona with a bunch of new people that I barely knew to experience the culture and meet illustrators such as Judy Kaufmann to gain inspiration for our own work. This was my first flight, on my own, in a new country which was very daunting. However, it turned in to be one of the best experiences of my life and I made a few new friends from it too. Walking around the streets and seeing how different the lifestyle and culture in Barcelona was gave me a new outlook on life.
If a Friday night wasn’t spent with my flatmate studying, you could find me and my flatmates along with a few mutual friends of ours chilling in the student bar for karaoke night. Which often led to a few of the group singing their hearts out.
Growing up I had always dreamt of getting into horse riding and starting university gave me the chance to join the equestrian society and do something I’ve always wanted to do along with making some great friends along the way. Each week (if deadlines and student budgets didn’t get in the way) we would go to the stables and jump on a horse for our lesson. We all had different backgrounds with horses therefore making us different levels. However, we all encouraged each other to do our best and our horsey squad was made. Near the end of the year we even managed to go on a hack together and we all had a lovely time. This is something we plan on continuing throughout our university life and I am very excited to see how much I can improve.
Occasionally me and my flatmates would treat our self to a meal out. This was often at a local restaurant where they did the best roast dinners for a very reasonable price. We also went to Boston Tea Party quite regularly for a good catch up despite the fact we lived together aha. However, although going out for a meal was a treat we were not afraid to also treat our self to a good take away. We learnt that if we purchased a take away as a flat it meant we could often make the amount to get a free delivery. As a student, any discount is always a bonus and gave us more reason to do it. Especially if we all had long days of studying and lectures.
Another highlight of my year was my birthday. Before even going to uni I had planned to come back home for my birthday however because of personal reasons, that wasn’t possible. So therefore, meant I had to experience my birthday in a new city without my family around me. At first this seemed very daunting and upsetting but it was something that had to be done. However, my friends came together to make my birthday very memorable and definitely up there in the best birthdays. I came back in the morning to the flat being decorated with birthday decorations, along with a birthday cake and a birthday lunch with drinks in the evening. It was not what I planned but I still can’t thank my flatmates enough for making it the best. It just went to show that sometimes you don’t always have to plan for something to turn out great.
Overall first year was amazing. I have made life long friends and experienced so much. It has taught me so much about myself and made me mature so much more than I would have thought. If you’d like to see more posts about my time at university, comment ideas or questions in the comments and I’d love to tell you more. Here’s to the rest of my uni life!
Monday, 21 August 2017
Before I started uni, I really enjoyed watching student’s university room tours. So, before I left, I took a few photos of my room to show you what it looked like. Hopefully it gives you inspiration for your uni rooms and it gives me something to look back at in the future aha.
I definitely made lots of memories in this room consisting of a few break downs, late night chats and generally having the best time with my new friends. Although I will no longer live in halls and be moving into a house for second year, this will be home to a chapter of my life that I will never forget. Here’s to second year!
Wednesday, 14 June 2017
One thing I have learnt throughout my life so far is that the negatives don't always have to be complete negatives, they always tend to have a hidden meaning somewhere and teach you something that you may not of known before. Therefore in the long run this makes you wiser and more stronger as a person.
You may not know this about me but I am the type of person who always enjoys to be on the move. Recently I think this may have made a turn for the worse. In order to deal with my not so healthy mental health and negative emotions, I decided to power through life by keeping myself busy in whatever way that could be (even if it meant I wasn't going to feel like myself after.) I didn't appreciate how much taking a break to do the things that you enjoy can benefit you in the long run.
Last weekend I went back home to visit my Dad and best friend which is normally something I look forward to all week but because of my not so good mental health this didn't seem as appealing as it normally is. But after getting home and talking to my Dad, he decided that I should go to get my nails done as this was always something I enjoyed in the past but haven't done in a while.
I walked in and had my nails done by the most lovely lady where we had a chat that inspired me, she said "in life you have to be selfish". Which she continued to explain that it is important to put those you care about first sometimes but if you do that too much you're going to affect you're own happiness and life because life overall is only short in the end. I must say I've never walked out of a salon feeling as good as I did then.
The past three days I have been in bed with the flu, not being able to get up. Although I have been in pain, it has been a positive in some respect. Relaxing and being mainly on my own for 3 days has shown me just how important it is to look after yourself and put yourself first sometimes. Being with my own thoughts has also meant that I have had my positive mindset back, it has given me time to breathe and take a somewhat well deserved break.
This may seem a bit more personal than my usual posts but it has taught me a few things so I wanted to share it in the hope it may make you consider yourself and your own self love and care. It's okay to put yourself first!
Sunday, 5 March 2017
|Our team's (Team Rhi) face paint selfies|
|Creating origami elephants and artwork for an exhibition at The Station called "Elephant in the Room"|
|Resilience, leadership and innovation - Our three key words for the weekend|
|Tips for public speaking and evaluation tree - where we placed things we wanted to achieve on the weekend|
|The three group's logos and score sheet for the weekend|
|Our countryside view|
|The first morning|
|Coming up with new campaign ideas|
|Mind mapping ideas|
|Dragon Den theme - Presenting campaign ideas|
The last couple of months have been a very hectic few months for me - so much has been going on. One of the things that has happened was a residential weekend with The Mentality Project - an amazing group ran by Off The Record where young people campaign about mental health. You may have heard me talk about Off The Record before in posts such as "Supporting Off The Record" and "Where Have I Been?". Above you can see a few pictures taken from the weekend with captions that tell you a couple of things we got up to. The residential for me was probably the best weekend of my life (and that isn't an understatement) - it was full of campaign ideas, activities and expanding my knowledge. It left me feeling refreshed, motivated and empowered to make change.